My sweet baby boy. You are asleep right now and there are about a thousand things I should be doing. Including showering.
Honey, you will learn as you grow that writing is important to your mom. It is how I express my heart – the things I love, the things I hate and the things I’m learning.
Since you were born though, I haven’t had the words. I haven’t had the words for how overwhelming and difficult and wonderful you are. I haven’t had the words for how it hasn’t been easy figuring out how to incorporate you into our marriage or about how my heart jumped and I cried the first time you smiled at me.
And honey, I’m not sure I will ever have the words. Usually after a certain amount of introspection, the jumble of feelings that keep me tongue-tied make their way into sentences. But not this time. It’s been five weeks and two days and still, I don’t have words.
And so, this is the best way I can explain what you mean to me. You leave me speechless.
Sometimes I’m speechless because I don’t know what to do to make you stop crying. Other times it is because I look at you and just can’t believe it. You are my son. My SON.
Ryle, you are teaching me a lot. You are teaching me patience and to give grace. You are reminding me to sing, because I want to sing to you. You are keeping me aware that I am not self sufficient, even though I like to think I am.
Most of all, though, you are teaching me about love. I love you, Ryle, more than … more than words.
And the love I have for you is the best kind of love. It is the kind that spurs me to love your daddy more because you are a part of him. Not only that, it makes me love your Abba Father more too.
Every day I pray that you will know Him, Ryle. I pray that God would remind me that I’m only a steward of you – that you belong to Him. I hope that you will know that, too, in the deepest part of your heart.
I pray that you will love God more than I do, Ryle. And more than your daddy does. I pray that your love for Him will knock us down.
It’s not easy to pray that, son. Because those who love God most are most aware that to gain their lives, they must lose them for His sake.
The people who love Him most answer in obedience when He asks them to do things that society doesn’t value or understand. Asking that you love God first – and truly love Him first – will mean that you face tough situations in life, and I’ll have to watch you go through them knowing that if you loved Him a little less, it might be easier on you.
And, it will mean that because you love Him first, you don’t love me first. You will grow up and go where He calls you, even if that means moving across the globe and not seeing your mother for years on end.
Honey, we put you in the church nursery for the first time yesterday and I could barely wait for the service to end so I could come get you. I wasn’t worried – I MISSED you. If you move across the globe, I will miss you horribly.
Here is how thinking on all of that makes me love God more. He knows exactly how I feel because He gave up His Son for me. And for you.
The difference is, you loving God and putting Him first is the absolute best thing for your life and I know that without a doubt. There is nothing sweeter than an ever-deeper relationship with the Lord Jesus and that is because He is WORTHY of your affection, son.
I am not worthy of the Love God showered on me when He gave up His Son for me. He did it because He decided to do it. He has mercy because He has mercy – not because we deserve it.
Now that I’m a mother, I cannot believe the Love of the Father. I’m completely overwhelmed by this new understanding of what grace means and what it cost.
Well, sweet boy, you are up. I can hear you beginning to snort from your crib, which is my favorite thing about how you wake up.
I love you honey, but not as much as God does.
~Mom